Hi.  I’m glad you found my website (although, quite honestly, I’m sorry you had to go looking for it). If you’re here, chances are you have either just gone through a breakup or are about to go through a breakup and are trying to find out if you can stop it. Well, I truly believe that it is possible to repair your relationship and rekindle the flame of romance that has burned out.

You can get your woman to come back to you but you have to have a plan!

Let me ask you a question. Now that she’s gone (or about to leave) which ones of these hit close to home?

• Are you calling her multiple times a day?
• Are you a text messaging and emailing her a lot?
• Do you want to go spy on her and see what she’s up to?
• Are you going over what you should have said and should have done in your head? To the point that you can’t focus on your day to day life?

Guarantee you this. Not one of those things is going to end well for you. That’s the emotional and irrational side of your brain working overtime to figure out what to do. Calm down and take a breath for a second.

I’ve spent a large part of my adult life studying human behavior. I spent a lot of my time in high school as girl’s “best friends” (God how I hated that term.  They wouldn’t go out with me because I was “too good of a friend.”) Recently I decided that I was going to do some research and put together everything I learned and all the advice I had given over the years into a book.

And then I met Tony…

When I was looking around one day, I found this website called The Magic of Making Up. This guy on the website, Tony Saunders, started saying a lot of the things I’ve been saying all these years. His philosophies and ideas were very similar to mine. Even though I wasn’t having a relationship problem at the time, I wanted to see if he was peddling the same ol’ garbage that all the other Internet websites I found were. Every website I found had the same stupid advice: “Don’t call her for 30 days and use that time to focus on you and your life.” What a load of crap. It sounds so simple but it isn’t and it really doesn’t work.

But Tony’s stuff wasn’t like that. He actually gave decent advice and helped you put together a plan that would help you work your way out of pretty much any situation and get her to come back.  Here’s a video that Tony put together to show you what I’m talking about:

Now I’m not saying this will work for your particular situation but the guy is honest, the advice is sound, and it may be worth it to you to at least check out his website and see for yourself.

Click Here to Visit The Magic of Making Up

Recently, I published an article that talked about moving from break up to make up using baby steps and not a giant leap of faith.  In that article, I talk about how calling your ex to say “let’s get back together” will never work but “want to get together for coffee after work” has a much better chance of success.

But what if one, or both, of you don’t like coffee?  What if that’s even too big of a step to take?  What do you do instead?

I’m a big believer in the fact that your relationship problems didn’t happen all at once, it was a slow, gradual process that separated the two of you.  Why would you think that you can fix the problems all at once?  You have to go slow and take your time to repair the relationship.  Here are some other ideas I’ve come up with that will go a long way to helping you discover how to get a woman back:

• Make Dinner For Her – OK, this one assumes that maybe you two haven’t gotten too far into trouble yet.  Maybe you’ve just had a fight and it feels pretty intense but she’s not moved back in with her mother just yet.  Trust me on this one guys, women LOVE it when a man cooks them dinner. You should also make it something you two don’t normally have and make sure you go to the grocery store and buy lots of fresh ingredients and make everything yourself. Don’t think throwing a bunch of spaghetti in a pot with some Ragu sauce will convey the same amount of love as Teriyaki Chicken with steamed vegetables.
• Send her flowers – I don’t know what it is about flowers but women love them.  They especially love them when their girlfriends get to see them getting them.  Now we’re going to assume you’re trying to get your woman back after some kind of rift so don’t go over the top with 2 dozen long stemmed roses and a card that says “Oh baby, I miss you so much and want you back in my life.”  A nice, simple bouquet of flowers (try to avoid roses since they’re so cliche) sent to her office with a note “Thinking of you” will work wonders.
• Remember details – Women totally love a man who can remember the smallest details of their relationships.  Where did you two first meet?  What was your first dance song (if you are married)?  Try to take advantage of that.  Perhaps send her flowers on the anniversary of your first date.  Maybe get your first dance song played on the radio at a time you know she’d be listening.  Something that shows her that you remember the little stuff.

A good friend of mine, TW Jackson, has come up with some other great “baby step” ideas that you can use to win your way back into her heart.  His Magic of Making Up website has a new video that gives you more details.  Click here to go to his website and see the new video.

In today’s world we often wonder how we ever lived without the conveniences of modern technology.  We have cell phones, email, instant messaging, facebook.  You name it.  Did you ever stop and think what life was like before you had a cell phone?  You had to actually have a conversation with the person you were walking down the hallway with.  Maybe you had to sing along with the radio while you were driving?  Technology has turned us into an impersonal society.  It may be more convenient to send a text message or write an email but that may not always be the right thing to do — especially if you’re trying to get your woman to come back.

If you are struggling with a break up and really trying to find the magic secret to get a woman back, I have an interesting proposal for you to consider. Studies have shown that 90% of all human communication is non-verbal.  Tone, body language, etc. all work to convey a message.  When you send a text message or an email, all that communication is lost and people don’t get a good grasp of what you are saying.  How do you counteract that when she just doesn’t even want to see you so you can communicate what you’re feeling?  Here’s my idea:

Send her a handwritten letter

In today’s technologically desensitized world, one of the single most powerful things you can do to have your ex potentially come back to you in record time is to AGREE with her break up in a hand written note.  It will definitely throw her off her game and wonder exactly what you’re up to.  Be careful, however, the words you choose in the note can have a positive or negative effect depending on which ones you choose.  If you are interested to find out exactly what words to use when you write the note, check out this video.

If you are trying to find out how to get a woman back, this is probably the best piece of advice you’re going to get.  Chances are that if you’re reading this, you probably feel like everything you do pushes her away even further.  No matter how hard you try, you just can’t seem to get her to want you back.  Here’s my best kept secret to almost guarantee she’ll come back to you.

Stop Trying So Hard!

It’s really that simple.  The human condition is that people want what they can’t have.  If you are constantly smothering her trying to remind her of why you’re so perfect for her, you’re working against Mother Nature.  Take a completely different approach for once.  Spend the next two weeks with ZERO communication between you and her.  Focus on ways that you can improve your own personal life.  Maybe you could do some things just for fun that you’ve always wanted to do.  This will be hard and take discipline but it’s absolutely essential. Don’t tell her what you’re doing, that will defeat the purpose.  Just shut up, walk away, and don’t have any exchanges during this time.

During this time, she should start feeling an emotional shift.  She’s going to wonder what you’re up to and why you’re not bothering her anymore.  At this point, one of two things will happen.  Either she will start thinking more about you and focusing on why she loved you in the first place or she will move on.  In both cases, you’re better off.  If she starts thinking about you, she’ll start to pursue you and you can start to rekindle your romance.  If she doesn’t, you’ve spent two quality weeks with yourself and you now know that she wasn’t that into you in the first place.

So if you’re wondering how to get a woman back, you just have to realize that absence makes the heart grow fonder and if you let her make the first move, you will ultimately come out on top.

Information on how to get a woman back is coming soon!